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Being present in the moment

Being present in the moment

About six months ago, I was working extra hours on a few freelance jobs with the intent of building some income outside of my regular 9-5 job. The ultimate goal would be to eventually transition into working from home so I could spend more time with our son.

After two months of working 8 to 8.5 hours at my regular job and then 2-4 hours at night after the baby went to sleep, I realized that I was wearing myself out. I was not sleeping enough, I was fighting the worst allergies I have ever experienced, I kept getting sick, and despite my husband’s valiant efforts to keep things tidy, our house had quickly fallen into disarray.

However, I pushed through because I really want to be able to stay home with my son.

Then within the span of a week, I observed my mom and mother-in-law interacting with my baby, and I realized that they were present in the moment. I was so sleep deprived that even when I was with my son, I was not there mentally. He may have had half of my attention — changing him, feeding, him, encouraging him to grab a toy or flip through a cloth book — but I was not fully there.

A part of my mind was always focused on other things. “I need to check my email.” “Once he falls asleep, I have to do x, y, and z before going to bed.” “Ugh, the dishes have piled up again.”

One afternoon when my parents dropped my son off after watching him for the day, I quietly watched my mom feed him a bottle and then my dad play with him. I almost burst into tears. In trying to pursue my goal of one day being able to stay home, I was missing the beautiful moments with my son now.

I had to change.

So I declined the next freelance job that came my way.

I put away the laptop. I did not just shut it or turned it off, I put it completely out of sight. I removed the email and Facebook apps from my phone, and began to leave my phone in my purse or on the charger in a different room of the house.

With these changes, I was able to go to sleep earlier so in the mornings, I could shower before our son woke up, greet him with smiles and songs while he was still happy, nurse him and pump, and carry him with me around the house as I got ready for work instead of putting him in a walker or the play pen.

In the evenings, I had the energy to make dinner and clean up the kitchen while my husband played with our son, did laundry or vacuumed. Bedtime was much easier, because I was no longer eagerly waiting for the baby to fall asleep so I can do other things. I wanted to spend that quality time nursing him, rocking him, cuddling with him. After he was tucked into his crib, my husband and I would relax together instead of me being occupied with work on the laptop.

Our house was not only cleaner and tidier, but it was happier and filled with sunshine, music, and laughter.

Six months later, I do not regret this decision one bit.

Do I still long for the day when I can stay home with my son? Absolutely!

As much as we appreciate our parents for helping us watch our son for six months while both my husband and I worked, we still desired to have at least one of us at home. We determined that it is not financially feasible at this time for me to be the one to stay home. My income is what we rely on for rent, bills, every day living expenses, and health insurance.

So at the end of May my husband resigned his job with a local school district to stay home with our son. Being a stay-at-home parent is not an easy job. There are great days when the child is happy and you get a ton accomplished. And then there are terrible days where the house is a disaster and pretty much the only thing that happens is cuddling with a teething child.

Bradley has taken to being a stay-at-home dad, and every day he continues to amaze me. I am so grateful to be blessed with such a wonderful husband. Even after a long day of watching our son, he still cheerfully takes care of our son, me, and even the dog when I am feeling too sick to make dinner or too exhausted to wash the dishes.

Sometimes circumstances happen that do not allow us to live out our ideal dream, but instead of being disappointed, we should be thankful for the blessings we have.

“Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content.”
— Philippians 4:11, NKJV

Life is more than just a checklist of accomplishments. It is about relationships, and it is about spending time with those that mean the most to us. It means treasuring precious yet fleeting once-in-a-lifetime moments. It means letting go of those things out of our control and stop worrying about the future. Give your worries and burdens over to the Lord (1 Peter 5:7) and decide to be present in the here and now.

I have, and I love it!

Week of Gratitude: Day 7

Week of Gratitude: Day 7

Week of Gratitude – Day 7

I am grateful for the weekly Sabbath. The Sabbath is a special time set aside by the Lord Himself at the end of Creation week as a sacred day of rest. It includes physical rest from our usual daily duties, but even more importantly, it offers a spiritual rest. A full twenty-four hour period, from sunset to sunset, to spend in time with the Lord in worship, prayer, study, and fellowship with family and friends. Discovering the Sabbath in 2002 completely transformed my life, and now I eagerly look forward to Sabbath each week. “Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days you shall labor, and do all your work, but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the Lord your God.” Exodus 20:8-10a

Week of Gratitude: Day 6

Week of Gratitude: Day 6

Week of Gratitude – Day 6

I am grateful for the every day blessings and those precious life moments that are too easily overlooked and forgotten. We have no need for fancy or elaborate things. The Lord has provided for us everything that we need — a roof over our head, food in our bellies, and jobs to pay the bills. We are very blessed. “…I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content.” Philippians 4:11

After all, what is most important is not the material things, buying and collecting stuff that cannot bring happiness, but relationships, love and kindness. For these things and all things, we thank the Lord and give Him praise.

Week of Gratitude: Day 5

Week of Gratitude: Day 5

I hope everyone has had a nice Thanksgiving! Today is all about giving thanks, and we’re now over halfway through the Week of Gratitude! I’m slipping today’s in a little before midnight.

Week of Gratitude – Day 5

I am grateful for my wonderful and loving husband Bradley. You are the love of my life, and I am so blessed to be able to enjoy each day with you. You are a fantastic father and my best friend. I am so thankful that the Lord brought us together. I love you always and forever.

Week of Gratitude: Day 4

Week of Gratitude: Day 4

Week of Gratitude – Day 4

I am grateful for the privilege of being the mother of our precious Peanut. He is three months old now, and I love him so much! He is interacting a lot more and making all sorts of sounds. I am enjoying these precious moments with him and being present in the little every day things — the cute and the messy. I look forward to watching him, day by day, grow. His toothless grin is the most adorable thing to see, and he has been “talking” to me since he woke up this morning.

Week of Gratitude: Day 3

Week of Gratitude: Day 3

Week of Gratitude – Day 3

I am grateful for my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. To believe in a Creator God who not only made the world but continues to love and care for His creation brings me peace and comfort. He is also a God of justice and mercy; He risked everything to take the consequences of our sin on Himself in order to offer redemption to fallen humanity, and one day, when sin has run its course and revealed the ugly truth that the enemy had lied about God’s character, He will come to rescue the good, punish the evil, and remove sin from the universe forever. And there will be “no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain.” Revelation 21:4